10 Unusual Signs He Wants A Serious Relationship With You (2024)

• He's serious about you if his future plans have you in them
• If he's initiating contact consistently, that's a good sign of being serious
• He leaves his comfort zone for you
• He deletes his dating apps

When a guy is serious about you, it generally means that he sees a significant future with you and is considering a long-term relationship or even a lifelong relationship with you.

His actions, more than his words, will give you insight into his level of commitment.

I'm glad you asked. Testing is the number one way to know if he's serious about you.

If you're online dating, the number one way to test is through high value bantering. Including high value, playful banter in your conversations online or through text forces a man to reveal how serious he is about you.

Why?

Because if a guy is serious about you, he'll engage with your banter directly, because his desire and intention is to connect with you.

Guys who are treating you as just another number online will not banter back - and neither will the toxic, manipulative ones or the players. They do not allocate effort for that, as their desire is to use you, not for a deep lasting emotional connection with you.

Here's an example of banter to use. This is our reader who used one of relationship expert D.Shen's copy and paste examples. Pay particular attention to the guy's question, "why did you swipe right, what are you looking for?":

See how he bantered back and played along?

This is a great sign and lead to an instant date with a high value guy. Try to remember though, that high value banter does not work on every single man, and that's a good thing. Click to read D.Shen's article on why that is:Does High Value Banter Work On Every Single Man?

Alena (the lady in the above example), used high value banter very well and got engaged and married to the man of her dreams (at age 44!!) within 6 months.

Learn more about what she did: CLICK to Discover how the introverted Alena got her man to ask her out almost instantly and for the very first time in her life, she started attracting highly esteemed men & making real progress in overcoming her own anxious attachment patterns... All by using this dark feminine art of banter.

(...Even when she was completely skeptical to begin with!)

Now if you're not online dating and you're wanting to know how to test a guy to see if he's serious about you, The Feminine woman has a few in person tests you can use today.

The simplest way to deduce that a guy is serious about you is through his desire to attune to you and connect with you.

For the deeper explanation, we're now exploring the 10 unusual signs a guy is serious about you.

He'll call or send messages to you whenever possible, and try to make plans to see you regularly.

To have a serious relationship with someone, you need to make sure that they are making an effort and are actually interested in you.

One of the more unusual signs he wants a serious relationship with you is that he contacts you first.

This is often interpreted as him just being over-eager or highly physically attracted to you, but it often means more than that.

It means you’re on his mind and he cares enough to initiate contact.

If you're asking yourself, "Does he want to move things forward?" pay attention to whether you’re always sending the first message or call.

Who makes dates usually: you or him?

It’s normal for guys to struggle communicating well with you in the beginning (relationships are the domain of the feminine, so it makes sense that guys aren’t always great at deepening the connection, carrying on conversation or knowing what you would like best).

But over time, as your connection deepens, he should trust you enough and like you enough to initiate contact regularly.

A guy who's genuinely interested in you will always meet you halfway, if not more!

If this guy gives more than he gets, it's a good sign that he's looking for serious business.

The process of getting serious involves merging two previously separate lives together into one.

This means that he will meet your friends and family and you will be able to include him in your favorite activities.

So pay attention to how he acts when he's around people important to you.

Is he distant and disinterested or does he actively make an effort to get to know everyone?

He may not be a social butterfly, but if he wants something serious with you he’ll still put in an effort!

If you invited him to go along to see an exhibition of your favorite artist or take a walk along your favorite trail, does he seem interested or does it look like he's bored and counting down the seconds to go?

A man who wants serious things will be fascinated by you and the things that make you happy in your life.

• His personal life
• His aspirations
• Where he’s vulnerable
• His family; and
• Maybe even things he hasn't told anyone else

Then you can be sure that you mean something to him and he's letting you into his world. This is also one of the top signs an avoidant man loves you.

But the key is that he’s being vulnerable with you and starting to trust you. A lot of guys won’t just trust a woman - especially if she hasn’t passed the tests of trustworthiness.

But if he’s gradually opening up more and trusting you with more, then that reflects his seriousness about you and is one of the top unusual signs he wants a serious relationship with you.